Advises recovering addicts on maintaining their sobriety by acknowledging the twelve most common self-defeating thoughts that lead to relapse, and provides tools for working through these problems in daily life Acknowledgments ix Introduction 1(12) Stupid Thing 1: Believing Addiction to One Substance Is the Only Problem 13(10) Stupid Thing 2: Believing Sobriety Will Fix Everything 23(8) Stupid Thing 3: Pursuing Recovery with Less Energy Than Pursuing Addiction 31(8) Stupid Thing 4: Being Selectively Honest 39(8) Stupid Thing 5: Feeling Special and Unique 47(4) Stupid Thing 6: Not Making Amends 51(6) Stupid Thing 7: Using the Program to Try to Become Perfect 57(4) Stupid Thing 8: Confusing Self-Concern with Selfishness 61(6) Stupid Thing 9: Playing Futile Self-Improvement Games 67(10) Stupid Thing 10: Not Getting Help for Relationship Troubles 77(6) Stupid Thing 11: Believing That Life Should Be Easy 83(6) Stupid Thing 12: Using the Program to Handle Everything 89(10) Some Final Thoughts and Suggestions 99(18) Bibliography 117(2) About the Author 119