It's completely unrealistic to expect to wake up one morning and suddenly be full of confidence, attracting abundance at every turn. However, it's entirely within the realms of possibility to slowly build up your self-esteem over time, helping to create a cast-iron belief system that belongs to you, and you only. Do you believe that you will have high self-esteem when:. you make a lot of money?. you achieve a high position in your work?. you have an expensive car or an expensive home?. you are famous?. you find the right relationship?. you receive approval from the important people in your life? Who or what you think and say you are is a reflection of your experiences, and if you have to change any negative view you have about yourself, you have to start addressing it from its root through mind reconfiguration.